Pass on the Whine
Everyone has times when they tend to whine and complain too much. Admit it -- you do it! Whether it's directed toward a particular person, about some life circumstance or some responsibility/obligation, some people whine
a lot.
It may make you feel better to "whine it out," but here's the problem with whining: it doesn't really do anything. It's not productive; nothing about your circumstances change because of you whining. You tend to just turn into an unhappy, negative person as a result of so much whining, says counselor Melanie Gorman.
A little whine every once in a while is OK, but don't turn yourself into Whiny McWhinerson -- you know, that man or woman you know who is constantly whining.
So next time you are feeling powerless and want to whine about, let's say, your job, don't fret. Start being constructive and think about the actions you can take so you won't have to whine anymore. Keep your spirits up and cut out the whine!
Gorman suggests you:
- Figure out why you're complaining. What is it that's bothering you? What expectations aren't being met? How do you think the situation should be handled?
- Tell people what you need. If you do need to just vent for a little, tell someone that before you start your "whine time."
- Ask yourself, are you a doer or a talker? This can help you figure out who best to talk to so you can take action about your problem.