Lunch Interview Etiquette
Dear Career Coach
: I am a new graduate and recently had a preliminary screening interview for an NP position. I met with one of the providers and the interview generally went well, I liked them and they liked me. After the first interview I compiled a list of about 15-20 additional questions I would like to ask about the position. Now I have received an invitation to have a lunch meeting with a few of the other providers in the practice. I would like to bring a print out of these questions to the lunch meeting. My dad disagrees with me, he has advised me that I should "listen more and talk less." Who is right? How will I get my questions answered?
Dear Out to Lunch Job Seeker: First let me congratulate you on your job search progress! An invitation to a lunch meeting is a good sign that you made a good impression during your first interview. Lunch interviews can be a new experience for both new grads and seasoned clinicians so you aren't alone in wondering about the proper etiquette.
Lunch meetings are more informal and unstructured; the intent of the meeting is more about getting to know you than to assess your clinical skills or negotiate the terms of a pending offer. A lunch meeting is an opportunity to introduce you to your future colleagues and get a sense of how you might mesh with the team. As I have written in many other columns, employers are looking for more than just someone who can do the technical aspects of the job, they want someone who is a good fit. It's very important to the employer that they hire someone who will fit well with the culture of the workplace. In other words, they want to get to know you as a person and get a feel for what your personality is like. Unconsciously they will all be asking themselves "would I want to share an office with this person?"
Certainly you will be asked some questions, but it is just as likely that at a table of several people you might not actually be doing the bulk of the talking. It's expected that you will ask questions, but bringing a list might be a bit off putting in the setting of a more social meeting. You also should limit your questions to inquiries about office routines or practice philosophies. Topics such as salary, benefits or vacation time can ruin the mood and are best saved for a later date. You can always follow up with HR or the person who originally interviewed you after the lunch meeting.
However, if some of your 15-20 questions happen to come up naturally in the conversation at lunch, then by all means ask away!
I advise you take your father's advice. Sit back, relax and enjoy the lunch.