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Cruising Through Life

Published November 13, 2007 10:24 AM by Lorettajo Kapinos

I was blessed to spend last week on a cruise in the Caribbean. On November 3, 2007, I boarded one of the largest cruise ships on earth:  Royal Caribbean's Liberty of the Seas.

I was amazed at the staff's desire to please, the perfection in atmosphere, endless food, and fanciful entertainment. Strangers struck up conversations anywhere on board about anything you can imagine. Everyone wore smiles, said ‘please' and ‘thank you'; I even heard ‘excuse me' from time to time and watched doors being held open.

One evening, early in the week, my husband and I had the chance to converse with a few crew members. They revealed that every employee signs a 6-month contract, agreeing to work 10 hours a day, 7 days a week. They are guaranteed a lunch break, but rarely get dinner. If they are lucky, they may get to see a port of call, but most do not get the chance. All three crew members stated that if even one person expresses sheer delight at their efforts, then the sacrifice is worth it.

I began to think of my life, my work, and all that I do everyday just to make ends meet. I knew that even though I was holding the ‘drink of the day' today, the hustle and bustle of the real world would eventually need to be faced again. As I felt the wind blow in my hair and inhaled the scent of salty air, I became determined to bring more than just souvenirs home with me. I dreamt of bottling this feeling, integrating it into every part of my regular day.

Upon exiting the boat, people became people again. Already at baggage claim, vacationers were grumbling and complaining, pushing others out of the way so they could have their luggage first. I smiled, reached into my soul and took a drink from the bottle of my own personal refreshment. The airport was even worse: throes of tanned people folded their arms and donned frowns deeper than the oceans we had just sailed. I wondered if the magic of the cruise would escape me just as quickly. I double checked my soul and found the "bottle" right where I had left it.

Today I am back to work. I am thrilled because I will be precepting a group of new graduates to the pediatric emergency room. All three of them are very intimidated by this population, but I look forward to guiding them through this time of growth. I think I have a lot more to offer now that I have experienced and appreciated a small slice of heaven.

For the future, I wish to continually revisit this feeling of peace that this vacation has instilled in me. I want to make my patients feel as special as the crew aboard the Liberty made me feel. I know that I have barriers to face and that each day the memories will become more and more distant. But if I try, really, really try, maybe somehow I can find a way to cruise through life, even when the seas are rough.

15 comments

Dear Carol,

Good for you.  I hope you have a fabulous time and I would love to hear all about your adventures.   Life is too short...so in the words of Royal Caribbean:  "Get out there!"

Sincerely,

Lorettajo Kapinos

Lorettajo Kapinos January 14, 2008 12:21 PM
Springfield MA

Dear Melinda,

There are lots of ways to refuel your passion.  When I have long stretches between vacations, I really try to absorb only the positive aspects of nursing.  When I can no longer do that, it is time for a real break!  Feel good that you are planning to take care of yourself!

Sincerely,

Lorettajo Kapinos

Lorettajo Kapinos January 14, 2008 12:19 PM
Springfield MA

Dear Nita,

In Massachusetts, some of our area colleges have refresher courses.  So do many hospitals.  If you are interested in returning to the bedside, I am sure that many nurse recruiters will know where you should begin.  Keep me posted.  I would love to hear your thoughts on returning to today's ER.

Sincerely,

Lorettajo Kapinos

Lorettajo Kapinos January 14, 2008 12:14 PM
Springfield MA

I use to be one of those ER RN's and I really miss it. I have been working in Case Management and Occupational Health for 4 years now. I was trying to find out how to get back into hospital nursing. Does anyone know of a program to help get RN's back into the hospital? What kind of training would be required?

Happy Sailing!

Nita Long, OHN January 2, 2008 3:24 PM
San Dimas CA

To my ferllow nurses, I personally need a BREAK!, and although I haven't have one, thats so very needed, I still find that I still love both of my JOBS (at times), any way I have found that yes we are nurses, nurses that spend majority of our lives caring for others and at the end of (i'm sure) all of our days, having no time to care for ourselves. So I say to you all, that I'm working on taking time out for me and YOU ALL should too, please do this for ME!!! and Have a Happy New Year!!!

PS LorettaJoe Great Job

Melinda, Pediatrics/Public Health - RN December 28, 2007 12:51 PM
WI

I have been on 2 cruises before and have another one scheduled for November 2008.  It is a nice way to travel and recharge your inner power.  You are pampered and well taken care of by all the employees of the line you are traveling with.  I hope to vacation this way every year or two.  It is usually a VERY positive experience and you do come home feeling ready to tackle the demands of your particular job.  

Thanks for writing such a positive blog.

Carol Psych RN.

Carol, Psychiatry - RN, Western State Hospital December 10, 2007 9:37 PM
Staunton VA

To all of my readers that have commented,

Thank you so much for your positive responses.  It is so easy to become consumed with negativity, because it is so prevalent in our society.  Maybe if we all work to spread the word, we can have more happiness in our work lives, as well as at home.

Appreciating the love,

Lorettajo

Lorettajo Kapinos, Emergency - RN, Baystate Medical Center December 3, 2007 12:45 PM
Springfield MA

very touching story and mind opener! we all need to live one day at a time and make the most of it and trully we, nurses have to adopt to a positive attitude day in and day out, at work or even off work, cuz we all know that life is a gift that we should cherish and cherish all people of all walk of life...for we are just instruments here on earth and we will someday leave this place ...so make it a better and happier life journey. more power to u! live today and love it as it might be our last day...

toni, orthopedic surgery - rn, poh November 29, 2007 1:05 PM
charlotte NC

I exercise every morning for 1 hour  at a local gym & spend  15 minutes in a sauna chatting with other women.  I leave with a smile on my face.  I get to work, and everyone is grumbling about the traffic, the workload, etc. but I'm happy.

I hope the memories you stored up of your wonderful cruise can last a lifetime.  Mary

mary, pain management - nurse paractitioner November 28, 2007 8:56 PM
atlanta GA

Awesome story! It's a reminder that we both need to implement the "golden rule" (with compassion and understanding) AND to take a vacation every once in a while.

Reina, Pedi/Pedi ER - RN, Baptist Health System November 28, 2007 12:23 PM
San Antonio TX

That is exactly what I have been trying to instill in my co-workers.   We have a good life with everything at our fingertips. Why do we continue to hurt each other and why are we so judgemental?  Who gave us that right?     Teamwork is a necessity and it is even easier with a smile present along with the helping hand.

Missy November 28, 2007 9:23 AM
WI

Rock on, Laurettajo!  What a lovely attitude!  We should all take notice, and treat our fellow man a little better.

Elizabeth , RN November 28, 2007 8:52 AM

Nice article! Keep up the good work!

M Curry November 27, 2007 7:59 PM
Westfield MA

I hope to always find emergency nurses who have the mind set you have shared here.  What a difference it will make in the lives of those in need.  Thank you.

Debbie Spann, Emergency - Director of Emergency Services, Union General Hospital November 27, 2007 1:34 PM
Farmerville LA

i go on a cruise every year for 10 yrs with the NYSNA it

marie , psychiatry - unit care coordinator November 26, 2007 9:22 PM
New -york

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