An Online Romance, Part Two
One of the biggest pieces of news that has occurred in our household in the last year has been A.'s budding long-distance relationship with M., a friend she met on the Internet who lives in California. She has yet to meet this young man, but we are looking forward to a visit from him within the next few weeks.
I'm fascinated about the fact that A. has developed a romance over such a long distance with a friend who is also on the spectrum, but I felt awkward talking about the situation as an observer and as a parent. I thought that, instead, I would interview A. about the situation, and let her explain in her own words. What follows is part two of this interview.
Q: What's the worst thing about having a boyfriend on the Internet?
A: Why would anybody say that? I mean, there are usually bad days, but eventually they'll get over it. If you're always there for them, chances are they're going to be there for you, no matter what happens. And yes, we do have bad days, but in the end everything works out. Because you know why? We cheer ourselves up. It's important to do that when you're in a relationship.
Q: What do you mean by "cheer up?"
A: I show him funny videos; I draw him some love art of me and him.
Q: Which is better -- making friends on the Internet, or making them in real life?
A: It depends, really. People argue on whether you should meet them in real life or just on the Internet. I think that's a bunch of bull crap. I think you can meet a person wherever you want whether that's in real life or on the Internet. I hope to meet him someday.
Q: Do you think it's easier for you to have a romantic relationship over the Internet?
A: Well, I don't know. It's hard to be in a relationship you know, that is if you want to keep it healthy. Because I've heard some not so peasant endings to a relationship, and I want to make sure that never happens to us.
Q: What will you do to keep that from happening?
A: Simple. Be there for him every single day. Whether he be down or whatever mood he's in, I'm always going to stick by him, no matter what happens.
Q: Do you feel like he's there for you too?
A: Of course. We love each other very much.