You Can 'Have A Life' in PA School
One of my roles at school is to be a student ambassador. I team up with a couple of my classmates to host prospective students on their interview day. We take them out to lunch and lead them on a tour across campus. Along the way, they ask me questions and I do my best to answer. Recently, an applicant told me a story of a third-year PA student who was married with kids. She asked me, "In PA school, do you have a life? Because I talked with a third-year PA student who said he was a ghost to his kids and wife while in PA school. He said he watched his life pass before his eyes as he fully devoted his time to PA school." I smiled and answered honestly. "That is ridiculous," I said.
In orientation, just about every faculty members says some version of the same thing: "Kiss your wife and kids goodbye, because you are mine for the next 34 months." I realize now that this was only a scare tactic to readjust priorities. However, many pre-PAs and, unfortunately, PA students take that statement literally. The reality of PA school is that YOU WILL HAVE A LIFE! Come on people! It is ridiculous to cut off the outside world and do nothing but school. The obvious approach is to find balance. You must constantly evaluate your time, commitments and relationships. Priorities shift throughout PA school. As a married man, my opinion is that your spouse always comes first. This does not mean that you neglect studying to spend time with your wife. The key is to communicate with your spouse when it is necessary to study rather than spend time with her. You are not saying that studies are more important than her. This is a matter of disclosing needs and expectations (another topic altogether).
PA school takes up less than three years of your life. This does not give you a license to neglect your responsibilities to yourself and others. How you handle your time in PA school will affect how you handle your time as a PA. You must learn to balance life while in school. If you have no life in PA school, you are probably dying. Rant over.