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Cleaning Up My Attitude

Published November 18, 2008 4:33 PM by Janey Goude
I'm a positive, optimistic, glass-half-full person. But being a positive person is not the same as being thankful.  Thankfulness doesn't come naturally to me. Here's an example:

While doing laundry, I was lamenting my lack of laundry room. I was complaining to myself about how I have to stack my laundry basket on my dryer. You see, I have a laundry closet, if you can even call it that. Nasty, louvered, bi-fold doors slide open to reveal a washer and dryer, atop which sits my laundry basket. With four children, clothes regularly overflow either onto the washer or into the irretrievable crevice between the dryer and the wall. 

Somewhere during this discourse, I realized the problem: my attitude. True, I didn't have a laundry room. But I DID have a washer and dryer! There was a time when I had to go to the laundromat and feed quarters into someone else's machines. There was a time when I had a washer or dryer that was on the brink of extinction. I did each load holding my breath, wondering if the load would finish before the machine let out its final groan.  But this day-this day-I had a nearly new washer and dryer that cleaned clothes with a whisper and dried clothes on the first pass!

In that moment I realized that happiness is not found in what I have. Happiness is found in my PERCEPTION of what I have. I can choose to perceive my possessions, my relationships, my job, and my family from a perspective of abundance or from a perspective of lack. When I focus on what I don't have, that obscures my view of what I do have. 

How about you? Where is your focus? Are you looking at what you don't have? Or are you thankful for what you do have?

4 comments

My husband and I were just talking about his employee retirement fund today--considering options.  He said as bad as ours is, he can't imagine what someone's retirement portfolio looked like who had already reached retirement age...who had hundreds of thousands of dollars in it.  

I hadn't even contemplated finances when I wrote this blog...but it is so true.  We can't place our confidence, or our happiness, in money.  The age we are living in proves that almost daily.  

Thanks for sharing, Ruth...and for bringing optimism to others reading this.

Janey Goude November 21, 2008 1:22 AM

In these times of economic crisis, it's easy to get discouraged.  We thought our retirement years were established in the stock market only to see it dwindle to almost nothing.  Bright side:  we have a house, our health, beautiful children and grandchildren, food on the table.... We can see the hand of God throughout our lives taking care of us.  He'll lead us on.

Ruth November 20, 2008 9:00 AM
Lexington SC

Glad to help!

You made two very excellent points!  Thanks for sharing and giving us something to strive toward!

Janey Goude November 19, 2008 10:25 AM

Another great one I can use for group!!  You are making my job easier all the time!!!

I think that exposure can greatly effect attitude.  In two separate ways.....when I am around others who don't have the blessings I have it is easy to be grateful.  And I notice pretty routinely that when I am feeling sorry for myself (usually about something ridiculous) God puts someone in front of me to shut me up rather quickly.  And now I recognize it and apologize for being a big baby and I thank Him for the attitude adjustment.

Gratitude is also a very contagious state.  I remember working for a lady who was the epitome of humble and she was always thankful for everything.  She impacted the entire program's staff, and as a result we were all very close. We really felt like a family.  We helped each other and pitched in without a second thought.  And the program was made up of people all ages, races and backgrounds.   I have never had a job like that since then.  And although I have not been able to emulate her like I want to, the impact she made has stayed with me for more than 10 years.  

Julie Ann November 19, 2008 9:43 AM

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