Making Peace with our Plans
Sometimes a family member has specific requests that their loved ones don't agree with. My grandfather wanted to donate his body to science and then be cremated. My grandmother never reconciled to the idea. She knew his wishes, but labored over actually executing them.
Grief can play some nasty tricks on our ability to reason. A loved one may second guess herself wondering if she misunderstood conversations, especially if she didn't agree with what the deceased wanted to do. Having your wishes in writing can lift a burden from those left behind. When the time comes to execute the decision, loved ones have your written instructions to give them strength.
When we plan ahead, we need to consider those who will be affected by our decisions. We don't have to alter our plans to suit them, but part of our preparation should be to do all we can to help those we love make peace with our plans.