Making Peace with our Plans

It's a great idea to put everything into writing now.  And let the executor of the will know where all the information can be found.  Decisions are way too difficult for grieving family to make without our help.

Where this isn't fun to discuss, eventually we all, possiblyl barring  some situations  where disposing of the body is beyond our control, will face a decision of this nature. My husband of 53 years just stepped into eternity, unexpectedly. He always said he wanted to be cremated and I always retorted, "No way!" We joked back and forth not realizing this reality was right around our corner. Because of my health issues, we were anticipating my passing, had our wills and living wills made. What a shock for me and our family and friends. As I stood near his lifeless body, I said, "Honey, I will do as you asked." It was his desire and choice. We only have so much control. I think of his grandfather who was Baptist yet a member in good standing of his wife's Lutheran church. Because of issues, he became angry with the church and refused to have them buried in the church cemetary. He went to the farmer next door and bought enough land for their private plots ajoining the cemetery next door. This was well until the church experienced growth, needed more property, did likewise. Now this couple is surrounded by their Lutheran brothers and sisters. No separation. We only have so much control. Rest in peace...trust God.