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The Ins and Outs of Early Intervention

Remain Calm. He's Only a Child

Published January 25, 2016 10:46 AM by jasna cowan

Therapists often ask me what they should do with kiddos that are just "out of control."  

I ask the therapist, "Do you have your game face on?"

They might ask what that means. Allow me to explain.

Children feel and react immediately to an adult's fear or uncertainty in their skills, you see. So, when the question about what to do when the child is out of control arise, well, the answer is easy.

We need to remind ourselves that we know what we are doing and own it.

When the child starts pushing buttons and attempting to push boundaries, we should try to show very little emotion and especially not show uncertainty in that situation. It is the job of the child, especially the toddler with limited expressive language, to push and test boundaries.

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Can you feel scared, uncertain of what to do next, and feel like things are falling apart? Of course, just so long as you don’t allow it to show to the parent and child.

Parents look to us as "the professionals," and even though we are not perfect we still need to act the part for the purpose of everyone’s sanity.

Be aware of your stress levels and personal issues as well, because that is when these little feisty toddlers come out to push you to react. Reacting is normal, and it has happened to me as well, but it can cause for some unnecessary lessons that could have been avoided.

Always remember these kiddos are struggling, not able to talk and express themselves as we can. So they do so through crying, hitting and possibly even in a worse way, such a nice chomp of razor sharp teeth on your arm.

The best way to avoid an escalating situation with a two-year-old kiddo (or any age for that matter) is to not allow for their behavior to cause a reaction from you. Just simply feel compassion for them by saying “I'm sorry you are sad. Just show me when you are ready to play," and then give them space.

Trying to talk the child through it or change their mind may only serve to escalate the behavior. Also, be sure to explain what you are doing to the parent so he or she understands you are not ignoring their child, but rather you are simply giving the child space to see if they might come around.

I once read the children who need extra love and patience show it in the most unloving ways. I try to remember that each day when working with these kiddos.

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I agree! It is very frustrating! I have a hard time when ABA peeps put my speech kiddos on a PECs without consulting the SLP, plus often they are doing it, and making a goal for the kids without a SLP. you are right it is very confusing for the parents, who want their kid to communicate. When ABA does this it undermines the speech practice. PECs in ABA should only be used as a joint attention or interactive tool, to be a communication device it should be set up through the SLP. This is a gray area with ABA/SLP.

Kristen Bergmann January 30, 2016 9:53 AM

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