Letting Go of Stress
I find it very difficult at times to balance my work and personal life. When there is stress in my personal life, it can easily start to pour into my work life. I start to notice the hints from the children I see that this is occurring. I start to see kids have more behaviors, maybe start crying when they arrive to the session, and they are not having fun like they used to. It's those moments when I need to remember I need my own therapy to be an effective mentor and coach to the children I serve.
Everyone has a different medicine for stress, but whatever it is for you, it is vital when things in the workplace start to go down that road. Reading a positive book, gardening, watching a great movie, exercising, spending time with friends, going to the beach - all of these are the things that help me. Having a list of the things that work for you somewhere to check in and see if you have been doing these things is the way to balance more effectively.
It's amazing how patient and understanding I am with that "tough kiddo" when I am feeling good myself. It is easy to give up on a "tough kiddo" and not make a difference when I am out of whack. Remembering and valuing the big picture is vital to our work. In order to help others we need to first take care of ourselves.
Like the airplane stewardess mentions on the plane, "when the plane is going down and you are with a child, please take the oxygen and place on yourself first." Why? Because if we faint, we can't help the others who are dependent on us.
Just a thought.